If you’re considering becoming a surrogate, you likely have a lot of questions.
What does the process actually look like?
How long does it take?
What kind of support would I have?
Would I be doing this alone?
Here’s a simple, step-by-step look at the surrogacy journey from the perspective of someone who chooses to carry for another family.
Step 1: Learning & Applying
For most surrogates, the journey starts with curiosity.
You might come across a post, hear a story, or know someone who has been a surrogate. After doing some research, the next step is reaching out to an agency, and this is where having the right support makes all the difference.
At Family Choice Surrogacy, the application process is thorough but approachable. You’ll complete an initial screening to make sure you meet the qualifications to become a surrogate. From there, our team walks you through what to expect next.
This stage is about:
- Asking questions
- Understanding responsibilities
- Making sure it’s a good fit for your life and your family
You’re never pressured, it’s about informed, confident decisions.
Step 2: Screening & Medical Clearance
Once you move forward, you’ll go through more detailed screenings.
This typically includes:
- Medical records review
- A psychological evaluation
- A medical screening at a fertility clinic
While this may sound overwhelming, this is where agency support becomes especially important.
FCS coordinates appointments, communicates with clinics, and helps you understand what each step means. You’re guided the entire time, not left trying to figure it out on your own.
Step 3: Matching With Intended Parents
This is often one of the most meaningful parts of the journey.
Your agency will carefully match you with intended parents who align with your values, communication style, and expectations. At Family Choice Surrogacy, matching isn’t rushed, compatibility matters.
You’ll typically:
- Review intended parent profiles
- Have a match call
- Discuss hopes, expectations, and communication preferences
A strong match lays the foundation for a healthy, respectful journey.
Step 4: Legal Contracts
Before any medical procedures begin, legal contracts are completed.
Each party has their own attorney to ensure everyone is protected and informed. This contract outlines things like compensation, expectations, and decision-making during pregnancy.
Your agency will generally coordinate this entire phase, making sure timelines stay on track and that you understand what you’re signing. You’re supported through every document and conversation.
Step 5: The Medical Process & Embryo Transfer
Once contracts are finalized, you’ll begin the IVF cycle.
This includes:
- Medication to prepare your body
- Monitoring appointments
- Embryo transfer
Your agency remains closely involved during this stage, checking in, helping with logistics, and offering encouragement.
Transfer day is often emotional for everyone involved. It represents hope and months (sometimes years) of preparation for the intended parents.
Step 6: Pregnancy
If the transfer is successful, you move into the pregnancy phase.
From a surrogate’s perspective, this stage often feels similar to your own pregnancies, but with added layers of communication and coordination.
Family Choice Surrogacy will continue to:
- Check in regularly
- Support you emotionally
- Help coordinate milestone updates
- Assist with travel arrangements (if needed)
- Ensure compensation and reimbursements are handled smoothly
Having an agency involved helps keep communication clear and healthy between everyone.
Step 7: Delivery & Beyond
Delivery day is powerful.
You’ve carried a baby for a family who has been waiting for this moment. While emotions can be high, most surrogates describe it as deeply fulfilling.
After birth:
- Recovery begins
- Agency support continues
Family Choice Surrogacy doesn’t disappear after delivery. Postpartum support, communication guidance, and continued care are part of the process.
Is Surrogacy Right for You?
Every surrogate has her own reason for saying yes.
Some feel called to help a family who cannot carry on their own.
Some love being pregnant.
Some want to give someone the chance to experience parenthood.
Whatever your “why” may be, the process should feel supported, informed, and aligned with your life If you’re even slightly curious, reaching out for a conversation is the best first step. There’s no obligation, just information and guidance, and with Family Choice Surrogacy, you’re supported the entire way to make sure that you have the best journey possible. Reach out today to learn more!